actual life (april 14 – december 17 2020)
summer sunset in melbourne. we dropped a quarter tab and took a walk along the river in the city. i was wearing my long green dress, you were in a linen shirt. we stopped on a bridge to take it all in. and in the breeze, i heard this song playing. we stood there together in silence, arms leaning side by side. then on our way back to the hotel along the riverbank, fireworks went off in the distance over the stadium.
I remember it vividly—stumbling through my YouTube algorithm, my affection for poetry, music, and art quietly conspiring to place Kyle “Guante” Tran Myhre’s "Love in the Time of Undeath" at the top of my suggestions. His voice, gravelly and alive, delivered each word with a ferocity that felt like it was aimed directly at me. I tripped over every syllable, carried by its potency. In that moment, as I sat in a relationship with a new partner that felt more hollow than whole, it was as if the algorithm was whispering something I wasn’t ready to hear.
Three years later, that same voice—raw and moody—resurfaced, this time underscoring a new dance track from a British laptop producer that slipped into my Spotify rotation like a ghost with a message. Three years on, and on the other side of that relationship, questioning the future. My lifelong obsession with curating music prickled with recognition. Before the song’s first chorus faded, I knew. I was among the first to hear it, to fall for it, to follow Fred again. And again. And again. And now, I have found you, and those words land more profoundly and more deeply now, each listen, knowing I have found my other half. Knowing how much more I wanted from love and from life, from Kyle's battle cry, his call to romantic arms.
Resonance isn’t just something we hear. It’s something we feel, as though the universe nudges us toward what we need before we even know we’re ready to listen.
you don't get many of these in life and you almost never know it in the moment no rhyme or reason to it just two strangers, who finally feel like something to someone
the story will play out if the writers are any good but whether it's a short story, a series or a lifetime or all is lost in the weave of rivaling storylines
regardless of how script unravels, bitter or sweet this moment will linger.
the first time hackney became our secret code was the first time i really missed you. it was a warm afternoon in the city. i was rushing back to the office. we had been texting all day but i didn’t know when or how i would see you, just you, next. i missed your eyes looking right into mine. i missed your warm soft hands. i missed your caress. i missed how we inhaled each others scents. i was scared to say it but i needed to let you know. so i sent you this. you replied straight away with just the word hackney.
smoke signals during no contact. i missed you too.
as the drives home from yours became muscle memory, i started to listen to these feelings in my heart. and against what i thought i knew, contrary to my actual life, i felt alone. the time spent together become sparce, the moments of joy dwindled. i was 'busy', filling my life with many other responsibilities to escape from the reality of exponential change in our relationship. only in retrospect I can see my insecurities masking the false projections and blatant idealism. in flux between the future and the past. avoidant of the present. it's my fault I lost my faith
there was one time i heard this and i didn’t feel like crying anymore. all the other times, i felt that loneliness hit me right in the chest. but this time, for the first time, with you i didn’t feel lost anymore. i didn’t even expect it, i just realised as this was playing and we were there together at the show that i felt like i finally found someone i could really belong with. i dont think i’d ever had that before. i looked at you and felt so happy, i think i squeezed your hand. thank you.
we were laying in bed together when this came on. i wondered how i would feel hearing it now, after so much had happened between us. it wasn’t the same. i didn’t feel like i belonged with you anymore, and i really miss that, but i don’t feel so lost on my own anymore either.